“It takes a village to raise a child.” African Proverb
In addition or as a separate package to the birth support, in a postpartum role, I attend to the new family at home after the birth. The journey isn’t over once baby has arrived, it is just starting!
I’ll visit you in the comfort of your own home, usually during the first twelve weeks, but it can also be anytime during the first 6 months.
Today most of us are lacking the ‘village’, that supportive network to strive as new parents, especially in big cities, fare from family or when living overseas. When I become your doula, I step up and help you rebuild the village YOU need around you. Sometimes family is close-by and that can be amazing but it can also feel a bit too much… Maybe having your mother-in-law popping-in every day is not the most useful help for you right now. Maybe the ‘Insta-perfect’ pressure is not helping you relax in your new role. Maybe the well-intentioned friends wanting to ALL visit at the same time is not the smartest idea. and that’s all ok. So I will help you identify who are the people YOU want to bring in your supportive village. Let’s create what works for you, whether it is a cleaner, a meal delivery company or a home-massage therapist !
MOTHERTING THE ‘MOTHER’
Once baby is born, the attention of the caregivers (and anyone really!) is all about this little star… My role is centred around taking care of YOU with unconditional support and evidence-based information so you can feel present mentally, physically & emotionally for the journey into parenthood.
I am not a guest or distant relative coming to meet the new baby. With me, don’t worry about washing your hair, getting out of your tracksuit, pulling yourself together if you’ve been crying all morning, preparing tea when I arrive, cleaning the pile of dishes in the sink, … just BE YOURSELF, however raw and vulnerable you feel that day!
DON’T BECOME AN EMPTY CUP
Most of us know that to best support others, we first need to be well ourselves (the famous “put the oxygen mask on you first before you help others”) so sometimes my role will also be to remind you about YOU! What can we do so you get a break? book a massage, go for a walk, have a swim at the beach, take a nap, meet up with friends, just a shooower please … I will help you identify what you need to find your feet again and we will make it happen!
EMPOWERING YOURSELF AS A PARENT
When we become a parent, we all get overwhelmed by well-meaning advise and tips from family, friends, books, podcasts, youtube videos and Instagram accounts…. My non-judgemental and reassuring presence will just give you the additional confidence your might need to empower yourself and ‘know’ deep down that you ARE already providing the best care for you baby!
- establishing successful nursing
- caring for baby while you take a nap or some self-care time (yep I am talking rose petal bath with candles, music and a book!)
- cooking nourishing meals in your kitchen to replenish your body and soul
- helping with small house chores (laundry, tidying,…)
- attending to the needs of other family members or siblings
- enlisting support from your friends and relatives & organising a meal train
- discussing sleeping routines
- practicing baby massage, wrapping, carrying
- helping with the logistics of leaving the house with a baby (and sometimes a toddler!) for medical appointments or grocery shopping
- debriefing your birth experience together (a very crucial point… whatever your experience was)
- Exeteraaaa. The details of my work will vary from family to family, because each family’s situation is beautiful and unique!
WHOLESOME FOODS DURING POSTPARTUM
I am now offering the option of postpartum meals delivery following the tradition of the ‘first 40 days after birth’ that dates back centuries and is still followed in many traditions all around the world. It is an essential time for the expectant parent’s recovery and healing, both mentally and physically, integrating wholesome and nourishing foods in this new routine with baby. All meals are hand-made with love in my kitchen. READ MORE HERE.
Find all the details of my packages and fees HERE.
I support LGBTQI Families in Birth as well as families with diverse backgrounds and stories by providing a compassionate, respectful and culturally appropriate care to all my clients. Read more HERE.
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